~There Is A Solution~
I borrowed this quote from http://idyllicmuse.blogspot.com/
"One has to wonder. If a certain element continues to surround you.
Perhaps you are the one inviting it in."
She had posted it on Twitter, and it really said what I've been thinking lately.
It seems to me that a couple of my friends keep "revisiting" a certain situation in their lives. When I, or others try to speak into their life about how they can move on and grow they turn a deaf ear. It's like they live to be the victim in any given circumstance so they can broadcast it for sympathy.What they don't do is tell what part they played in the situation.
I do believe some ill can befall us from time to time. But to have the SAME situation every time is hard to fathom. Just because the players change, doesn't mean it's a new dilemma to deal with. It's God's way of showing ya how YOU Need to change.
I know I'm speaking vaguely here, but that's because it can be used on any given situation.
You can't tell people one thing and then try and go back on it when ya feel out of sorts. You can't pretend to have friends in ya life and that they matter then toss them aside when ya think someone better comes along. Nor can ya expect the people ya tossed aside sit idly by without confronting ya on it. Nor expect them to keep supporting ya, and ya wants when ya don't give two cents for their feelings,wants, or desires.
Ya can't keep using people to profit from their ideas and use them as ya own. What ya fail to see is people will eventually find ya out. People tend to chat about what goes on in their lives and ya name will appear and situations spoke of. So if ya think ya think ya can continue to live ya life like this, DO NOT Be surprised that people will find ya dishonorable, shady, selfish and a user. Because in the end ya reap whatcha sow.
There is a solution...
Why not be a person of principal rather then a person without integrity?
Martin Luther King Jr. & Abraham Lincoln have sound advice on life.
"Darkness cannot drive out darkness only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate only love can do that." ~Martin Luther King, Jr.
"I am not bound to win, but I am bound to be true. I am not bound to succeed, but to live by the light that I have. I must stand with anybody that stands right, and stand with him while he is right, and part with him when he goes wrong." ~Abraham Lincoln
When I think on these two quotes from such wonderful leaders. I am reminded to be a woman of honor and have respect for others. I will allow others to make mistakes with me. I will allow them a second chance. What I will NOT allow is for ANYONE to make me feel like I am using them for personal gain. I have no desire to use others for anything. I am a woman who will give anyone the shirt of my back, or my last dollar if it means their happiness. But I will not allow anyone to suck the life out of my happiness so they can look good in the eyes of others. I do have a huge heart and love to see others happy and successful. I don't have any desire to be thrust in the limelight. I am a behind the scenes kind of gal. If I could make my friends dreams comes true, or bring a smile to their face I will do it. But I will do it with honor and integrity.
I just want the same respect from those I know. Is this too much to ask?
I think not.